“In the stillness of the quiet, if we listen, we can hear the whisper of the heart giving strength to weakness, courage to fear and hope to despair” Howard Thurman
Within the past two months, I’ve learned of some friends and acquaintances diagnosed with the big “C” and others that underwent major surgery. In addition, yet others are awaiting to have surgery. Whether it’s a diagnosis, some health issue we’ve investigated, or an injury requiring surgery, our mindset is 80-90% of the battle.
It is at this juncture and critical time when we must call upon our inner Warrior Goddess and prepare for yet another journey. This journey requires us to step into the fire of transformation once again. We must have the strength, courage and hope that our Phoenix will emerge, and we will be even more aligned, aware and connected to the “I AM” of all that we are, and then some. Regardless of previous diagnosis’, injuries or surgeries we may have had in the past, it is important to remember that the health crisis we are facing is different. Why? Because we have a new perspective.
One of my beloved yoga and meditation teachers brought this to light as I was preparing for surgery two years ago. Even if we are facing the same diagnosis or a similar surgery, it has never happened the exact same way before. It is a new time! Even more importantly, my beloved Angela reminded me to NOT bring a verdict based on my past experience. She further went on to encourage me to experience the situation anew and, even though there will be struggle and difficulty, meet it for what it is and not add past perspectives or perceived problems that may or may not come in the future.
I decided to write this blog a while ago when one of my friends called to ask me how I prepared for my last successful surgery, so that she could share it with a friend of hers who was having surgery. Before sharing with you how my Inner Warrior got ready for “game day,” I must tell you that Shiftforwellness.com was started by my friend Jenn as a result of her battle with cancer ten years ago. It’s a wonderful, beautiful and user-friendly site to visit where she shares a plethora of resources and tools that worked and didn’t work for her – before, during and after her surgery. I am a firm believer in not “reinventing the wheel” and tapping into the wisdom and sage advice of others. I love, respect and admire people who put “their stuff”out there in an effort to light and pave the way for others. I believe this in itself is part of our purpose.
So after my conversation with Jenn, I quickly pulled out my journal from a few years ago and made a list. Intuitively, I knew I had to share this information in a blog. As you should know by now, I am BIG on self-care. We must always make a conscious choice to take care of the Goddess in all of us so that she is ready to step up to the plate when needed. First and foremost, I emailed my tribe of friends and informed them of what was going on. Secondly, I started a Self-Care / Self-Nurturing Journal. One of the things I wrote in it was all the responses my friends emailed me. I wanted to have this readily available if and when the going got mentally and emotionally tough. This way, the beautiful, heart-felt words my friends wrote to me would serve to inspire and motivate me during the challenging times that lay ahead (in addition to reminding me how blessed and loved I am). The other thing I used the journal for was to make an entry every single day leading up to the surgery. Mind you, I started it on October 25, 2015 and my surgery was scheduled for the end of January 2016.
Keeping this journal was a way for me to hold myself accountable for the care and nurturing with which I would shower upon my Inner Goddess. Lastly, the other thing I listed in my journal, was all the “tools” I had that I would be able to tap into at any given time. As I previously said, our mindset is critical. Equally critical is knowing that we are held by that higher power – call it God, The Universe, Nature, Spirit, The Divine – whatever resonates for you personally. I am also a firm believer in the power of prayer. Its collective energy is palpable, powerful and at our fingertips at any given moment. Gathering our prayer warriors is one of the most powerfully energetic, uplifting and inspiring things we can do.
In addition to prayer and intention, some of the “tools” listed in my Self-Care / Self-Nurturing Journal are as follows:
- Pranayama (breathwork)
- Aromatherapy oils and diffusor
- Music and Mantras
- Meditations (I especially loved Finding Your Flow which was a past one from the Oprah and Deepak Chopra 21 Day Meditation Series)
- Guided healing meditations and visualizations
- Inspirational books (like No Mud, No Lotus)
- Healing Mandalas coloring book
- Yoga (and chair asanas when I would be unable to get down on the floor)
- Guided sleep meditations
- Lavender Eye pillow
- Energy work / Reiki
- Physical Therapy
- Proper nutrition, lots of H20 and no sugar or alcohol
My darlings, trust me when I tell you that my inner Warrior Goddess was beyond ready for yet another battle. And boy, did she come out to play! One very important thing we must remember though, is to allow ourself rest. Even if it means not taking calls, responding to texts right away, and setting time aside to listen to voicemails and read emails. It can be extremely overwhelming and fatiguing to say the least. And, the body needs sleep in order to heal. The last thing it needs is added stress and discomfort. The other important thing to remember to do is have certain contacts be the “point person” in charge of groups of friends and family. It is virtually impossible and draining to even “think” you can “handle” it all. Not only is it impossible but extremely stressful if you try to exert control over the entire situation. Instead of holding on and gripping tightly, choose to let go and be held! This is when we must open ourself to receive!
It is my deepest desire that you are able to utilize any of the information I shared with you. Feel free to pass it on to anyone you feel may benefit from it. We all have the ability to tap into the strength and inner fortitude inside of us. However, some of us have a more difficult time doing so.
Always know you are loved and that a higher power is holding you. Remember, you are powerful beyond measure! Take care of the Warrior Goddess within, always and in all ways!
Inhale Love…Exhale Gratitude, JTC