When Things Feel Out of Control

“ Your choices of action may be limited-but your choices of thoughts or not.“ Abraham-Hicks

“What if nature needed a break from the pain. What if she was desperately tired of humanity’s old and toxic ways. And there was only one dire way she could do for them to change. So she sent all her children to isolation. Even if it meant making some of them ill. And force them all to look within. So that the poison stops pumping her veins. While the rivers washed all clean. And the ocean breathe easier. And the animals roam free. And the air replenished itself. Even politicians were forced to face the consequences of their actions and this made them change their ways. And the metal machines stopped polluting the air. And the first time in a long time the world returned to silence. And nature grew over its wounds. And humans became better humans to themselves and to each other. And they stopped pretending to be robots. And they were able to let themselves rest. And they were able to feel and heal. And they didn’t have somewhere or someone to be. And they looked inside themselves. And they all met their souls. And through their separation they came together. And through their isolation they learned they were never really alone. What if nature threw in chaos. To send us all back home to peace.”

I’m sure many of you saw the above quote, by Sattori, on social media. It sure does seem that Mother Nature is realigning all things on planet earth, doesn’t it? I don’t know about you, but it really spoke to my heart and soul, and I truly hope that it speaks to the heart and soul of every person, everywhere, however they come across it.

And regardless of the outcome, which I’m certain will be a whole new beautiful world, the process can, and is, scary for many. Uncertainty can cause fear and anxiety as well as bring up all sorts of triggers for people.

Let’s face it, we’ve become a society that is so disconnected from “Self” and so “busy” running away from our Self, that being quarantined/sheltered at home (with many of the people we also run away from) can amp up our stress levels to epic proportions.

I believe that one of the keys to keep us calm and sane is to discern between what we can and can’t control. This may mean sitting down and actually making a list for each. But not to worry, I am here to help identify some of the things you can control when things feel out of control.

For starters, you can control how you start your day. Will you automatically reach for your electronic device and fill your space with noise and mental chatter, or will you take a few deep breaths, maybe stretch a bit, practice a little gratitude or say a prayer?

Next, you can control how you are going to show up for your Self, how you are going to treat your Self, how you are going to show up for others, and how you treat those around you. Are you kind, loving, compassionate, patient and forgiving of yourself? Do you approach your family, friends, loved ones, spouse, partner and pets with kindness, love, compassion, empathy, dignity, patience, respect, integrity and nonviolence?

You can also control how you react to a situation, how you respond to uncertainty and how you express your feelings, thoughts and emotions. Do you act or react when a challenging situation arises? Do you take the time to identify what’s happening inside of you when a challenge or trigger arises? Do you pause, create space and allow your natural awareness to arise? Do you allow yourself the space to be mindful and non-judgmental?

You also control the choices that impact you on all levels of your being: how much social media you choose to consume, what you share on social media, and what or who you follow online. Be mindful of when it’s becoming more than just “staying informed.” Given the climate of our society today, and the fear mongering and divisiveness that unfortunately exist, we have a moral responsibility to not add to these states. Be wise and smart and do your research. Before posting anything, check the source, do some fact checking and commit to only sharing what is true. After all, not every article posted on social media is legit, regardless of how it looks or sounds. Know the source and know the people you can trust.

Another area you can control are boundaries you need in place that will get you through the difficult and challenging times. Just remember that we all need to protect our energies. It’s ok if you feel like changing your mind. It’s ok to want to be alone. It’s ok to rest. It’s ok speak up. It’s ok to let go. It’s ok to take time for yourself to breathe, ground, and connect to Source. It’s ok to use your self-regulating tools now more than ever. Its ok to make the time for your hobbies. It’s ok to get creative. It’s ok to be unsure. And it’s ok to opt out of overwhelming discussions.

Lastly, you can control how are you respond to the fears of others. Sometimes, the best thing we can do is just hold a space for someone to share their fear and respond with understanding and respect. Nothing more, nothing less. Just hold space. For each and every single one of us are doing the best we can with the consciousness and awareness that we have.

Hopefully, this blog has assisted you in some way. Perhaps you will find more things as areas of your life that you can effectively control and identify those ruminating and unproductive thoughts that you need to toss to the curb.

This global pandemic of our time is an opportunity for us to re-group, re-align and re-define who we want to be in the space we occupy in the world. It’s a time for feeling, healing- mind, body and soul- awakening, and raising the vibration of the collective consciousness.

And on this note, I will leave you with a beautiful prayer written by one of my favorite human beings on earth, Seane Corn, for her book: Revolution of the Soul.

“May this (the reading of this book) be an opportunity for healing, awakening, and remembering to occur in mind, body, and spirit, may we see beyond our own stories, letting go of everything we think we know and embracing spiritual perception, which is limitless and beyond reason, seeing all moments and all souls as holy. May we have the strength to do our inner work so we may confront our limiting beliefs, mature our awareness, and expand our intuitive knowing. May we be fearless in our pursuit for personal awakening and open ourselves to the God within and the God within all. May we love bigger, boulder, and more brilliantly than we ever thought possible; heal the divisions that exist; and have the courage to expose that which no longer serves our light. And as we heal, as we awaken, and as we work to evolve our soul, may we understand what it is that binds and bonds all of us as one, in God and in love. May we step in to the Mystery, and into this revolution with our hearts open, our minds clear, and our souls emblazoned in Grace. May God lead, love inspire, and our actions fuel each other, this nation, and our world into peace. Amen. Shalom. Salaam. Namaste. Who. Shanti. Peace. Om.

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